Cathartic Ramblings
This is simply what the tag says… Cathartic Ramblings. I’ve been feeling…down lately. And that has brought back all of the rejections in my life.
Rejection sucks. It’s hard, it scars. And it never completely goes away. Loving people means giving them power over you.. The power to walk away.
There’s a saying.. If you love something, you have to let it go. If it comes back, it was meant to be. If not, then it never was. I don’t know if I agree with this or not. I think people come in your life, and leave. Everyone serves a purpose. I don’t know if anyone is meant to stay forever. Maybe some people. But in a lifetime, maybe a handful of people are meant to stay.
It’s sad. It’s hard. It’s heartbreaking learning how to let go.
What is the worth, the value of human relationships? And not just the love-affairs. Father/daughter. Mother/daughter. Sister/sister. Friend/friend. Lover/lover. Everything. We learn from them all. We lose most of them. Is there a way we can learn, but stay detached? So we don’t have to suffer the indignity and pain of loss?
There’s a question for you readers, if I have any left. Is there a way to learn and grow in relationships, but be able to stay detached?
Most of you will say, “of course not! That’s the point of the relationship. Learning and growing in the love AND the loss.” But a few of you have never experienced the pain of rejection such as what I’m speaking of. A few of you have.
Rejection. Loss. Is it really worth the inevitable pain?
I’ve been rejected by almost every major *relationship* in my life. I’ve come to the conclusion that most of the time, it’s just not worth the heartache. Best to stick with loving horses and focusing on work. That’s what life ultimately comes down to, isn’t it? The daily grind of work and home. My work/school is set. My home is set. All for the time being. Is this all there is to life?
Hhhmmm. Just some interesting thoughts.
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Jack once told me that I measure the success of my relationships by whether they last forever, and that that was wrong.
He was right, and I've been learning to let go of that mindset.
Relationships ebb and flow like the tides, they go in and out and sometimes they disappear forever like shells reclaimed by the sea.
Some people are only in your life long enough to teach you something valuable before going on to their next lesson and leaving you to yours.
Others stay in your life long enough to put down roots, and when the time comes that they remove themselves, it leaves wounds.
But wounds heal, and even scars fade. We learn as much from our wounds as from our triumphs, and life is a series of lessons.
Will you ever consider yourself a ride so good that you no longer need new instructors?
Of course not.
Will you ever know everything about people/relationships/yourself, so that you need not learn from the next person in your life?
Of course not.
People enter our lives for a reason, and they leave them for a reason, too.
Sometimes, that reason just doesn't feel worth it, and that's when it's time to ask yourself why.
There is an old saying time can heal all would. I think the saying should go.. God can heal all wounds. The Bible never says there woln't be tears in heaven it says Christ will wipe them away. Pain is part of the sin of life. One cannot stay detached but one can heal. We will have perfect bodies and perfect relationships one day. Until them we must deal with the disfunctions of fellow fallen sinners. I love you! Christ says he sticks closer than a brother, he will never leave you not forsake you. Make that realationship strong and the others will work out.
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